Do you ever sit back and just reflect on your life and the people who are in your life? More specifically relationships you have with people. Lately I have been doing that and while I’m super happy with most of the relationships in my life there are some I am not happy with. I have been struggling lately with this too. Well maybe struggling isn’t the right word but I have most definitely been thinking about it. A lot.
I am lucky enough to have some awesome relationships in my life. My relationship with Mr. Big Truck for instance is AWESOME. My relationship with my mom, while not always the best is solid now and I am so happy about that. My relationship with Ray is awesome. I am, always have been, and always will be daddys little girl, and I get along great wIth his wife to boot! I have some of the best friends a girl could ask for, yet I have some of the worst friends a girl could ask for, and those are the relationships I am questioning.
I whole heartily think that relationships, be it with a significant other, a family member, or a friend should be a two way street all the times. Yes there will be times when one person needs to lean on the other more for one reason or another and that is what a friends are for, but when a relationship gets to the point wohere one person is always asking something of you said relationship gets to be exhausting.
There are relationships in my life that I feel are not the best. Toxic? Maybe, if not yet they definitely could get there. Those are the relationships that I need to think long and hard about and decide what I need to do about them. If you ask me right now to make a decision about said relationships I would with out a doubt cut them off. Why? Because I don’t deal with drama.
I try to live a drama free life. Why? Well because honestly I just don’t like dealing with unnecessary drama. I like things to be peaceful and while most of the relationships in my life are drama free there are a few that are not. With that said there is 1 relationship that immediately comes to mind that I would love nothing more that to completely cut out of my life however, that will never happen. I’m not going to say who this relationship is with but I will say that I have gotten to the point that I now keep said relationship at as minimal interaction as possible. Why? For my own sanity. Remember I like the drama free life.
There is another relationship that comes to mind that I need to think about. Said relationship is one that I thought was a solid one. Maybe at one point along the road it was but now I think we are going our own ways. Totally normal. I feel this relationship does not build me up. I feel like this relationship is exhausting. I feel like this relationship is very one sided and that I am constantly giving myself to this person and yet this person can not, and will not be there for me when I need. I could go on about how I feel about this relationship but I honestly do not see a reason to. I think it is high time to just cut this relationship off.
Do I just stop reaching out to said person? Do I say “hey so and so our friendship is over don’t bother talking to me ever again?” I am friend with said person on Facebook, do I just un-friend said person and then if and when said person notices and asks me reply with “I’m done with our friendship?”
I’ve never been in this situation before so I am not 100% sure how to go about handling this but I know I will figure it out. It’s just a shittiy situation in general to be in. With that said though, I am trying to better myself and be the best version of me that I can be. I think personal growth is necessary to do that and while it is an ongoing process I know it’s only for the best. I know for me to grow personally I need to take all the negativity that I can out of my life. Not only do I need to but I WANT to.
With all that said friends take a second and look at your relationships and see if you are happy with them. If not get yourself to a happy place.