The 5 Love Languages

Have you heard of the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman?
My friend Danielle suggested it to me and I read it and I LOVED it. I would highly suggest it to anyone who is married no matter what state your marriage is in. I am one who thinks that marriage is work and you need to constantly grow yourself and as a couple and this is a great resource to use to grow both!
Some of the things I took form this book…
“Your emotional love language and the language of your spouse may be as different as Chinese from English.”
 
“We must be willing to learn our spouse’s primary love language if we are to be effective communicators of love.”
 
“The need to feel loved by one’s spouse is at the heart of marital desires.”
 
“Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love but to be genuinely loved by another, to know a love that grow out of reason and choice, not instinct.”
“Love is the attitude that says ‘I am married to you, and I choose to look out for your interests'”
 
“What makes one person feel loved emotionally is not always the thing that makes another person feel loved emotionally.” 
 
“Love is something you do for someone else, not something you do yourself.”
 
If those quotes that I took directly from the book don’t make you think I do not know what will.
After reading the book I decided that I wanted to list the love languages in what I thought were order for me.
Quality Time
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
Physical Touch
Receiving Gifts
I asked Mr. Big Truck what he thought his order of Love Language was and he said

Quality Time
Physical Touch
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
Receiving of Gifts

From there we both took the website and took their quiz. After taking the quiz it was interesting to find out that Mr. Big Truck and I both have the same order of Love Languages which are as follows.

Physical Touch
Quality Time
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
Receiving of Gifts.

Like I said, I thought it was interesting that Mr. Big Truck have the same order of Love Languages. That however is not always the case among couples. As I was reading the book Gary Chapman goes on to say that if you show your spouse love in their primary love language they will always feel loved and when they feel love they will show you love in return. It makes sense to me. Luckily Mr. Big Truck and I show love in the same ways and in each others love language!

Overall I would say this is a GREAT read for any couple no matter where in your marriage you may be. I know I am so glad I took Danielle’s recommendation and read the book.

  Hugs, Nikki

I have 10 Lovely Comments, I would love to have yours... on The 5 Love Languages

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    Jenn says:
    January 3, 2014

    I couldn’t agree more. I love the love languages and the concept behind it because it is SO true. I think it helps each person understand the other, and when they are showing you love, and what kind of love they/you need.

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    P!nky says:
    January 3, 2014

    I’ve heard amazing things about the book and know my love language, I just need to get my husband to take the quiz ;)!

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    January 3, 2014

    Interesting!! Isn’t it crazy how different it can be than what you expected?? And also very interesting you guys had the same order.

    It’s been such an awesome book for ALL relationships. I try to be more conscious of how I show love to others and attempt to do it in the way they like to be shown. Helps with sometimes feeling unappreciated.

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    January 4, 2014

    My husband and I actually read this early in our dating relationship and it was great for us. It really helped us understand where each other were coming from. I’m glad you guys enjoyed it so much!

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    Michael says:
    January 13, 2014

    This book has been on my radar for a while but seeing as I’m not married I’m not really ure it will apply. Still, it’s on my to-read list.

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    Chels says:
    February 11, 2014

    That’s awesome you guys have the same one – it seems like you’d be ‘on the same page’ more, so to speak. Learning what mine is has helped me realize why sometimes in realtionships I don’t feel like a ‘priority’ or what not

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      Nikki says:
      February 11, 2014

      Yeah I was not super surprised to figure our we have the same ones. I was a really eye opening though to check it out for sure!

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    Nikki says:
    March 3, 2015

    Hi! I’m an author of children’s books and have just published a new book called What Love Looks Like by Nikki Rogers (me). This book was inspired by the book The 5 Love Languages and can really help parents and children recognise the different ways they give and receive love. It helps to be aware of the love languages of people in all sorts of relationships.

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      Nikki says:
      March 4, 2015

      Do you have more information on this?

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