Recently I was chatting with my friend Celia and she had asked me if I had blogged about why we decided to elope. That’s when it dawned on me that I never did!
When we got back from Cabo, I simply posted the link to the video of pictures that were taken while we were there, with the last picture being of us holding up our hands showing off our rings. I also promised I would be back with details and alas the holiday season hit and it totally slipped my mind. Thank you Celia for jogging my memory with your question!
So I am here today to finally share with you why we decided to elope.
As many of you know I have been married before complete with the big wedding and all. When I divorced I said if I ever got married again I would NEVER have a big wedding again. Too much stress and money is involved with planning a wedding and I sure did not want to go through that again. Although, if I am being totally honest with you after my divorce I also said to myself hat I would NEVER get married again and look at me now!
As you know, back in September Mr. Big Truck and I found out we were pregnant. Happily we shared the news with our families. They were all very happy for us, but of course they questioned us are you guys gonna get married? Mr. Big Truck and I had many conversations about how neither of us felt we NEEDED to be married to have a child together. We both loved each other deeply and knew we were going to be together for the long run.
Truth be told there were a few reasons we decided to get married while we were in Cabo.
In October, Mr. Big Truck proposed and I of course said yes! We had no immediate plans of getting married other than “eventually”. One day we got to talking about how we would like to be married before the baby was born this way all of us had the same last name on her birth certificate and we would officially be a family. Not that we wouldn’t have been if we weren’t married. We decided that we would do a Justice of the Peace type thing sometime before the baby was born and call it a day.
Another reason we decided to elope was because neither one of us WANTED a big hoopla of a wedding. Mr. Big Truck is not a fan of being the center of attention either. Neither of us could justify spending the amount of money it would cost to have all of our closest friends and family together for 5 hours with us being pregnant. Just was not gonna happen.
Shortly after we got engaged I was on the phone with my mother and we were talking about the new Obama care plan that was going into place. Mom brought it to my attention that the dead line to get on some kind of plan at the time of our conversation was March 31st. When I got home from work that day I was talking to Mr. Big Truck about that. See right now he is currently laid off from his job and at the time did not have medical insurance. With the impending Obama care thing it would have cost Mr. Big Truck a pretty penny to get some kind of coverage. Clearly our need “deadline” so to speak was now March 31st!
We had booked our Cabo trip back in August and never gave it another thought untill it was time to start packing! That is when it dawned on me, WE SHOULD GET MARRIED IN CABO! I mean come on how perfect would that be. I talked to Mr. Big Truck about it and he was totally on board with the idea. I reached out to the resort that we were staying at to see if it would be possible since it was so last-minute. They emailed me back saying that we would need to be in the country for 3 business days prior to us getting married. It worked for us! All of a sudden we were set to get married November 21, 2013! We were excited and we didn’t tell anyone!
So yeah that is how we came to the decision to elope. Do we regret it? No not at all. Did we hurt some people’s feelings because they were not part of our day? Yes, but they are so beyond happy for us that the hurt only lasted a minute.
What is most important is that ultimately we both love each other and deep down inside we both knew that we would’ve gotten married one way or another some day and that is all that matters!