It’s easy to do, yet it is easy not to do. If it is so easy to do why do so many people choose not to? Why do so many people walk around with a frown on their face? Why do so many people walk around looking like their dog just died? Are things really that bad in your life? If they are I am sorry, truly I am, but let’s try to see the good in what is going on.
I know I used to walk around and rarely if ever would I smile. Why? Because I was in a dark place. I was not happy with myself. I was not happy with where I was. So yeah I get it. I get it when people say that they are not happy with their current situation. My challenge is do something about it. If you are not happy with where you are the only thing that is holding you back is yourself.
Think about that.
If YOU are not where YOU want to be, the YOU are the only thing that is holding YOU back. See what I mean.
Start with a smile. It is amazing what putting a smile on your face can do for you. First of all, and I am speaking from experience, it makes you more welcoming toward others. When I walk the halls at work I used to keep my head down and not make eye contact let alone smile at anyone. Why? Because I didn’t want to be bothered. Why? Because these people were not part of my inner circle so I didn’t want to engage with them. Dumb I know.
I remember one day I was walking through the halls at work, and in “old Nikki fashion” I had my head down and I was ignoring everyone I could, when I passed one person they took the time to say hello even though I was not looking at them. They then went on to say, “Smile, life is not that bad is it?” That right there got me thinking. No life is not that bad. I have a roof over my head, a husband who loves and adores me, a family that loves and supports me in whatever I decide to do. No life is not that bad, in fact life is pretty darn good. I made the decision right then and there that I am better than that. I decided that from that point on when I walk down the hallway I will hold my head up high, look at others and smile, say hello, good morning, good afternoon, hey how are you. I make it a point to engage people. If the person in the hallway says nothing that is their decision but I made it a point to say hello.
John 15:1 My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. I was not loving others. I was not even loving myself if I am being totally honest. That had to change and that had to change stat!
Luke 6:31 Do to others as you would have them do to you. Hello golden rule. Guess what I was not doing. Treating others the way I wanted to be treated.
Then there is the doozy that really hit home with me. 1 John 4:20-12 Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen. And he has given us this command: Anyone who loves God must also love their brother and sister. Talk about getting slapped in the face by God.
Taking the time to see what I was lacking was tough. It is always hard to work on yourself but it is always so rewarding. I took the time to invest in myself which in turn let me invest in others. I am so glad that God brought all this to my attention and helped me work through it. God is doing some great things in my life and for that I am so grateful.