Hands Free Mama

Hey Friends!

I know I have taken a little bit of a blog break after everything and honestly I think it was one of the best things I have done. I needed to write when I did to process everything and then I just needed to shut down and move on.

With moving on I recently started reading Hands Free Mama by Rachel Macy Stafford and it’s been quite an interesting read. It has really challenged me to stop and think about how much time I spend on my computer, iPad, and iPhone and while I do not spend endless amounts of time on them I spend more time than I really need to.

When we found out that I was pregnant I know I had told Mr. Big Truck that I wanted to make a conscious effort to cut back how much time I spent on the computer, iPad and iPhone.  When we had her I know I made that effort and I was happy with that. Until I started reading this book. While I know I am not on my computer, iPad, and iPhone as much as I was before having #babybigtruck I honestly believe that there is always room for improvement.

I have started taking steps to make sure that I can keep my end of this commitment. I started with deactivating my personal Facebook account. I have caught myself in the past trolling Facebook just to kill time. It’s not productive. It’s not something I need to be doing. It is not something I want #babybigtruck to be doing. I know she won’t be doing it if she doesn’t see me doing it. More is caught that is taught. I know I am also guilty of trolling Facebook when I am laying in bed at night. I should be engaging in conversation with my husband at that time. I should be giving him all my attention not half of it. I also have noticed more often than not there is a lot of negativity on Facebook and to be quite honest with you I do not need that or want that in my life. I want to surround myself and my family with positivity and that starts with me.

I’ve also decided that when I am with #babybigtruck and Mr. Big Truck I will be making it a point to put away my phone. I want to be in the moment with them when we are together. I want to catch the little things like the facial expressions that #babybigtruck gives. I want to see the amazement in her eyes when she sees something for the first time. I want to experience life with her. I also want to make sure that when Mr. Big Truck and I are relaxing at home together that we are enjoying the precious small amounts of time we have together.

Why am I doing this? Because I want to live life present in my family’s life. I want to be engaged with them. I want to experience things with them. Really experience things and not miss the little moments. I want to be the example to my child and future children that when we are sitting at the dinner table we will be engaging together and talking about our day. We will be spending time with each other without our noses in our phones texting someone or Facebooking someone. I want to be able to ask a questions and get a response when I ask it not after someone is done texting someone or whatever they may be doing on their phone.

I know my part in this is to INTENTIONALLY unplug more so than I do now when my family is together. Like I said I know my actions will ultimately impact my child and future children’s actions and decisions. I want her to see her mama engaging in relationships and I want her to engage in relationships as she grows. I do not want her or any other children we may have to hide behind a screen. I wholeheartedly believe that she will do what she sees us doing and if she sees us spending little amounts of time on our phones and other electronic devices than she will also spend little amounts of time on them as she grow up. I am not saying that I will never be on a device in front of her because that is not realistic but I will make sure I spend more time engaging with her than engaging with my devices. It’s all about balance my friends!

  Hugs, Nikki

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    Alana says:
    September 22, 2015

    I love this! I keep my Facebook deactivated for the same reason–I spent way too much time just trolling!

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      Nikki says:
      September 22, 2015

      How long have you been deactivated? Do you ever sign on? This is the first time I did this.

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    September 23, 2015

    Yes!! I love that book and read it last summer. It’s definitely one to re-visit, for sure!! We are all so connected to social media. My friend just de activated her Facebook; I just took the app off my phone and WOW what a difference that made. Good for you lady! Hope all is well.

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      Nikki says:
      September 24, 2015

      I really like it so far! It’s eye opening for sure! I was gonna just take the app off but like I said I feel like everything I read on there lately has been negative and I am just over it. Maybe eventually I will reactivate it but for right now I am more than ok and actually happy that I don’t waste time on there!

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    Dina says:
    September 30, 2015

    First, I want to say thank you for sharing your story. There are many women in the same situation who feel very alone and your bravery to share is beautiful. God bless you all!

    I too after a similar situation bad a moment of clarity and perspective shift regarding Facebook. Getting rid of my personal page and only using iii for informative groups and business was freezing! I spend more quality time with my family and friends and less time with my phone or tablet in my face. Great move!!

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      Dina says:
      September 30, 2015

      PS sorry for all the typos!!! Auto correct got the best of my comment!!

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      Nikki says:
      October 15, 2015

      Ya know I am happy I did decide to deactivate it’s been refreshing!

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