Mike and I have been together for four years now. We have been married three and as y’all know we have 2 beautiful little girls who we love to pieces. With that said we try to keep a balance in our family. A family balance I will call it. Mike and I will do whatever we can for our girl within reason but we always make sure that we make time for each other and put our relationship before our kids.
Us time. Now let me just say that of course we make sure that if there is a pressing need that needs to be met by one of our girls we make sure to take care of it but we also make sure that we are always tending to our relationship. We make it a point to get out just the two of us for monthly date nights. We make it a point to have adult conversations even if it is in front of our girls. When we are talking to each other and one of the girls needs or wants our attention we finish our conversation before entertaining their thoughts. Why? Because we value each other and we respect each other.
Solid relationship. We want our kids to see what a solid relationship looks like. We want to be the model they want to be like. That means we have to invest into ourselves. That means that we have to make sure that we make it a priority to do things with and without our kids. To date we have only gone away for a long weekend without kids once but it was a glorious weekend away and a needed weekend away. It is something we need to do again but right now in this current season of life that is just not possible. But like I said it is something we will do again and it will do wonders for us to reconnect and recharge. We love our girls and we love to travel and do things with our girls but we love each other and we love to travel with each other.
No kids in our bed. Our girls have their own rooms. Mike and I worked very hard on their rooms to make them perfect for them. With this said we have both made the decision that they will not sleep with us in bed. Since the day they were both born they have been in their rooms with the exception of a few nights here and there. In the morning #babybigtruck wakes up and wonders into our room and will climb into our bed and snuggle and that is more than welcomed, there are also nights when she wakes up in the middle of the night and comes in and wants to get into bed with us that is not welcomed. One of us will get up with her and bring her back to her room get her settled and then come back to our bed. She asks to sleep in our room all the time and all the time the answer is no you have your own bed.
Respect each others needs. Mike and I both work full-time and we are both hands on full-time parents. With that said we both need some down time and alone time. Sometimes he needs to sleep in and when that happens I will get up with the girls and keep them away from our room. Other times I desperately need to catch up on sleep and he will do that for me. I look for an hour every two weeks to get my nails and toes done. He looks to go fishing or hunting when his schedule allows and ya know what? We both do whatever we can to encourage each other to go out and do our own things. Not only does it benefit ourselves it benefits our marriage which flows over into our family.
This is just some of the ways we achieve a family balance in our little part of the world. We wouldn’t be able to do any of this with out our Lord and Savior first for bringing us together and second for being our rock and leader in life.